Sorry it’s been so long since I’ve written anything original. (It’s been a crazy summer.) Some of you have probably picked up on the latest events, but if you haven’t, here’s the big news: I’m getting married on Sunday! (Whaaat.)
Between picking up an almost-fulltime job and wedding planning, I’ve had little time for writing over the last four months. I’ve struggled with feeling like an inadequate blogger, but the fact that you’re all still here is a huge encouragement. Thanks for sticking with me. You’re the best.
Relationships are an investment: the more you put into them, the stronger and more valuable they become. This is why it’s important to invest consistently and purposefully. If you don’t, your connection will suffer.
Our generation’s mentality towards dating requires very little investment, and it’s no wonder we don’t value our relationships the way we should. Generosity isn’t a popular mindset, but perhaps it’s time we started cultivating it better. I want to challenge you to invest in three specific areas of your relationship.
Sam and I were long-distance for the first nine months of our relationship, and let me be the first to say, long-distance relationships are a struggle. It’s hard to go weeks or even months without seeing each other—especially if there’s no end in sight. Miles can wear on your relationship, so it’s important to be intentional about cultivating connection in spite of distance.
Despite the hardships of being separated physically, we learned a great deal from our period of distance—most notably, the importance of communication. To put it another way: when talking is all you have, you get really good at it. Couples who have learned to communicate well will be much more likely to develop strong, lasting relationships, so today I want to share a few tips to help you navigate what can be a bit of a rocky road.
We of the millennial generation face more clutter and shiny distractions than any generation before us. We have things like television, radio, ads, email, social media, texting, and more—all at our fingertips, vying for our attention every single day. Things get complicated fast.
We’re in the habit of keeping up with everything—and not because we have to, but because we can. Entertainment and information are everywhere all the time, so why not? We’re used to living with so much mental clutter, we sometimes don’t even recognize how it’s causing us to suffer.
We live in a time where virtually anything is possible. We have luxuries nobody had in the past; things like technology, the internet, social media, and more. We live in a time when it is more possible than ever to make a difference.
Most of us like the idea of making a difference, right? We like to imagine ourselves as the hero we’ve read about in stories or seen on the big screen. We dream of adventures and the Perilous Realm, waiting for that magical moment when we will feel like a hero—and that’s the problem.
Life is crazy, isn’t it? Another day of rushing here and running there; trying to keep up with your social life and meet all those looming deadlines. It’s all just…wild.
Sometimes in the midst of the wild, we get worn down. If you’re an introvert like me, maybe you get socially overextended. (Maybe extroverts sometimes do too? I wouldn’t know.) Keeping up gets hard, and the crazy thing is that most of us are keeping up with far more than we need to.
Today I felt discouraged. About my writing, about my blog, and about a great many other things. I found myself wondering, “Am I even good enough to do this? What if I mess up? What if after all this, nobody cares?”
Discouragement is a real struggle, and it happens to everybody, no matter how long you’ve been writing or how much experience you have. I kept wondering what I was doing wrong. After a short text conversation with Sam, during which I explained my struggle and admitted to being discouraged, he told me to go for a walk. And honestly, my first thought was, “Well, wouldn’t that be a waste of time?” I had work to do.